Sports Psychology

The Psychology of a Winner PART TWO

Written by benji

the third emotion is replacing complacency with perseverance experiencing this emotion could be a turning point for you if you can overcome this you can leverage and experience progress or you can remain in the comfort zone mediocrity is the result of comfort zone people who are outstanding winners today have managed and overcome the challenges of a complacent attitude the objective of a comfort zone is to protect us but the irony is we choose to be overprotected the comfort zone is one of the greatest enemies of human potential and of your potential when people get into a comfort zone they strive to stay in that comfort zone even if they’re unhappy with their situation often their whole lives pass them by while they’re furnishing and reinforcing their little rut of medium performance comfort is the enemy of achievement the biggest challenge for our long-term success can often be our short term successes success in any area can quickly breed complacency when you get comfortable you don’t want to change when you don’t change you don’t grow when you don’t grow you die if you’re a ripe you will rot if you’re green you’ll grow think of your comfort zone as a prison that you live in we’re all confined to our limitations.

as humans we are highly adaptive to our living conditions thus a frail mind can easily become complacent we can easily become accustomed to misery poverty loneliness and depression we need to become more perseverance we need to be committed to our goals that we have all the right to pursue you need the courage to continually move yourself in the direction of your biggest goals and ambitions you need to be willing to face discomfort in order for you to grow you need the courage to launch in faith with no guarantees of success lots of people think that I was born to do this one thing and then they turn 20 and then they turn 30 and then they turn 40 and then they turn 50 and they realized you know what what you thought was important at 10 15 20 and 30 isn’t as important sometimes 40 50 60 70 80 sometimes the thing you thought was your whole life’s purpose and goal and your 30s switches in your 40s and you need to develop new skill sets if you haven’t found that to be true yet I bet with little more maturity and higher ambitions and aims you’ll find that to be true your comfort zone it’s irrelevant what matters is what are you trying to do with your life how are you trying to contribute and how do you grow into that regardless of what you’re good at regardless of what’s comfortable or easy so I encourage you ask yourself this question have you been honest in fully expressing your thoughts your feelings your needs and your dreams with your boyfriend with your girlfriend with your husband your wife with your team with the people that you work with I mean do people even really know you because sometimes what makes us feeling comfortable is to avoid difficult conversations what makes us feel comfortable is making sure everyone accepts us what makes us feel comfortable is belonging and I think those are all great things but I also think we have to ask what’s real and conveyed that you communicate that

the fourth important emotion you learn to become a winner for life is overpowering failure if you want to become a winner for life you need to overcome your fear of failure now how do you do that the winners fail intelligently for them failure is a resting ground and not a nesting ground failure is an important part of the learning process it’s all about trial and error we need to adopt the psychology of winning that is to increase your failure rate you will increase your success rate so let’s assume that you’re tossing a coin you want to get 5 heads and suppose you toss the coin 15 times to get 5 heads and then you call it a success but what you also got was 10 tails called failure now let’s say you want 10 heads next time for success looking at the law of averages what you should do is try getting 20 more tails called failure that is increasing your failure rate to increase your success rate you need the courage to risk failure you need the courage to endure constant setbacks and disappointments and temporary defeats you need to learn to deal with failure by realizing that failure is an indispensable prerequisite for success you can’t succeed without failing and failing lots of times remember that wonderful quote from Thomas J Watson senior the founder of IBM he said if you want to be successful faster you must double your rate of failure they said success lies on the far side of failure you need the courage to treat failure as an opportunity to more intelligently begin again you need to overcome the fear of failure by doing the things you fear over and over until the fear is gone and then by resolving the bouncer rather than break when things don’t work out for you increase you failure rate and thus increase your success rate the 50 motion winners must learn is to leverage pressure we live in a time in a society where we’re constantly placed with demands we have growing demands from employers family spouse children peer group customers and followers we also have to compete with time quality performance and consistency as an effect pressure seems to be increasing on us our ability to cope with pressure is being tested to the fall for people with mediocrity pressure means stress but for winners pressure means motivation in a sense of urgency winners know how to ease their pressure with a positive note they accept pressure is a means to grow and as a result they become stronger than ever before now on the other hand pressure taken with a negative note becomes stress when you get pressure next time or every time turn that pressure into pleasure here’s how you turn pressure into pleasure.

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